Two years after my husband’s death, I am ready to meet another man

Dear Abe: Within a few days, the second anniversary of my husband’s death will be here. We were together for 40 years. It was not easy years. He had many issues, physical and mental. I was isolated because I did not want others to know how much I lived with him every day. I was deeply interested in him, and as his wife, it was better or worse.

It was difficult, but I felt that I was dealing well. I was 63 years old, and I thought my life had ended. Now, I don’t know what my body is doing, but I suffer from great feelings I thought I had died long ago. Care my husband for many years, allowed myself (my weight and my appearance). But now I am eating in good health, I have lost a few pounds and try to work on my appearance. I do not understand why my body in this era decided to return to life.

I live in a rural area, and I have no idea how to meet any older men. I spent many of the only years that I believed had killed all hope and love, but suddenly I realized that this is not true. I am very mixed. I tell myself that I am ridiculous, but my body will not listen. I hope you don’t think I am broken because this is a real problem. Thank you for any advice. – Wake up in Oklahoma

Dear woke up: I went through a difficult time. Being a full -time care provider he worn out. After those years that care about your sick husband, it is not surprising that you forgot to take care of yourself. Well, this burden has now been raised, and you have a lot of life.

The good news is that for a person who takes care of himself – who exercises regularly and eats in good health – your life is full of capabilities and away from the end. This is what your body is trying to tell you. Start exploring activities that enable you to meet people and make new friendships. If you do this, you may meet someone and two wives again.

Dear Abe: I owe about $ 200,000 in student loans to teach me in high schools. I am a middle -aged female and have health issues. My income is marginal, as is my career. For years, I have been hoping for six numbers, having a house, and they have a family and enjoy some stability on this point. It is clear that this did not come out, and I do not consider my position to change.

I am celibate, educated and still poor. I return to more than 40 hours a week without any benefits, no long -term stability, no house, and only marginal survival. How can I explain all this if you start someone? When should I remember my debt for any possibility before watching it escapes to the nearest director? – Money problems in the East

Dear money problems: If you are lucky enough to meet someone you think special, it shouldn’t have the first words of your mouth any relationship with your bank balance. Learn the person. Let him get to know you before revealing anything about your financial situation. At this point, many people of both sexes feel anxious about their financial future. You are far from the existence of these concerns.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.