My husband called a young waiter to our home behind my back

Dear Abe: I was 57 years old and married 32 years ago from my husband, who retired from his full -time job last year. I am still working full time. Since his retirement, he was going to a bar once a week or so, as he spent a few hours visiting with clients and employees.

One of the employees was interested in his “friend.” My husband is somewhat outgoing. The employee is a younger waiter, calling for our beverages. They also created a social media relationship and sent text messages.

When I made a plan outside the planned city, they made a plan for it to come to take cocktails with our other friends. They planned to keep the secret because I “may feel upset.” I discovered and became upset and stayed as well.

I discovered other messages, and I no longer trust my husband. I don’t think they are in a physical relationship, but despite its purification, I cannot give up what has been shared about me and I feel a deep sense of betrayal. How can I go foot? – Looking in Washington

Dear suspicious: What the waiter and your husband do are inappropriate. It may be useful to ask the employer whether there are any rules about the communication of its employees with sponsors outside the institution. As for your lack of your “Ghazali” husband, under these circumstances, it is understandable. Consulting marriage may help repair your relationship. He gave him the option to go with you, and if he refuses, go alone.

Dear Abe: I was working with a year -old personal coach who gave me bad news that he might soon leave for the upgrade in Chicago. I am happy because he is very excited and works hard, but I slept to love him. I feel in contact.

Recently, when I think about leaving it, it makes me almost crying. It is very nice, protective, funny and sweet for me. He mentioned in one of our first sessions that he was attracted to me. Tell me that I am beautiful, and this makes me smile. If he gets away, you will leave a hole in my heart. I feel that he forgets everything we have participated.

I send a text message to him, but I don’t want to be a scourge. Should I tell him how to feel too late? Does it seem clinging? How do I know that he feels the same way towards me without making myself look a fool? – I worked in Phoenix

Dear I did: You have written that your coach said he had “might” move to Chicago. What is the extent of its determination? Forgive me if this seems harsh, but if your feelings are circulated, your coach will invite you to move to Chicago with him, or at least find time to see you outside your paid sessions. If you think that will help express your feelings towards him, say that. It is a huge courtesy, and it should be considered in this way. I don’t think you have anything you lose through honesty.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in http://www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.