I think my son is anomalous and does not want to be near his gay father

Dear AbeFor many years I suspected my son like me. I do not understand why he will feel that he cannot talk to me about his relationships. I love it regardless. Everything was fine when I lived his father hundreds of miles away, but when I mentioned that we might come closer, my son felt very distress and explained that he did not want to happen. At that time, I did not understand the reason.

We approached more than any case, and now there is an invisible curtain between us. His father was disabled. I am the Chargé d’Affairs, who can be very stressful at times, but I do everything I can to care for myself emotionally and physically so that I can do this correctly.

It turns out that my husband is gay and released his mother. My husband is still angry at his father, which I understand. I think this may be one of our son’s reasons far away. Many of his contemporaries (male and female) mentioned their doubts to me. I love my son and I want to be closer. I called PFLAG for help. Can you provide me with any vision? – An attempt in Virginia

Dear try: If your son is gay (and he can be no Be), it is understood that he will stay away from his gay father. I find that it is strange for any of your son’s friends to make unwanted comments about their “doubts” about his sexual inclinations.

I was wise to access PFLAG for information. It is a respectable resource I mentioned in the column several times. But I can only wonder why you are approaching your son even though he indicates that he does not want it. It may be time to give him space to live his life separately, and because you need emotional support, search for him elsewhere.

Dear AbeI am a 71 -year -old child who has been married for 54 years. I usually have a terrible boycott when my wife speaks. I try to break this habit, which is difficult after many years.

We had a bad argument today when I asked me to see some of the “funny” YouTube clips. I refused because I was doing the weekly roller work to prepare many of our medical prescriptions for this week. She blew up that it was acceptable to me to boycott it, but not the other way around.

Then she continued to say how to boycott her when you cook, read, or on her computer, or do other activities. I asked when it was the right time to talk to her and I was never told. Were you out of the line or did you turn into an exaggerated reaction? – Erakhara in North Carolina

Dear LadyIt turned into an exaggerated reaction. Interestingly, your wife did not say that she boycotted her while she was talking.

I mentioned some activities. Did it happen to you that two of you may spend a lot of time together that you are raising her nerves? Perhaps getting out of the house separately would give two of you more breathing room.

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